I just thought I would post on my blog that I have graduated from university today with a degree of policing and criminal evidence. From this I have more spare time to do my own research and post on this blog. I will be returning to university after the summer to do another one year course too, but for the time being I am on summer break and will be working on my blog
Studies have shown that a lot of the communication we do is through the hands, whether it be explaining in more detail or showing how you are coming across to the person. To read somebody’s hand movements is very important and i recommend to all readers to try this out.
When shaking hands with somebody look at how they hold their hand out to shake your hand. Most people will do it straight onwards so the hands are connecting horizontally. However some people may hold their hand with their palms facing down, this is a sign that they are indicating they want to be the ‘boss’ or in charge so to speak. This goes back years and years and can relate to arm wrestling. Hence the winner or the arm wrestle will have their hand on the top of their opponents with their palm facing down.
Some people may use their hands as barriers. if somebody is getting too close or even to personal the person may lift their hands up sub-consiously to create a gap from the two people. This is quite a clear and easy sign that the person is feeling un easy or the topic of conversation is getting to personal.
When a person is feeling bored or disinterested, you may find them tapping their hands on a part of their body or an object, however if you speak to them directly or say something that may interest them they will stop and focus on what you are saying. This will be very visible in a work place like an office meeting or in schools.
Another hand movement that may show a sign is when a person is talking about somebody or something. They may be saying they like that person or that they have done well at something and smiling, but if you look at their hands they may be clenching their fist or another aggressive hand gesture. This will may show what the person really thinks of that person in the topic of conversation, like they don’t like them or they are jealous of what they have done.
When speaking to a stranger, a person may form a barrier from them which could be folding the arms or holding an object further out from the body than they usually would. However after sometime of talking the person will lower their hands and arms and open up more once they have familiarised themselves with the person and got to know them better.
Another sign is mostly for women. When a woman is attracted to another person they will start to play with a small object if they have it on their possession. for example a woman could be holding a glass and when she is attracted to another person she will start to play with the glass in slow and caressing movements. like stroking the glass or running her finger around the rim or base of the glass. This may be an indicator showing that she really is attracted to the person she is talking to.
I have studies peoples legs for a while now, in terms of body language. I have found that when a person is feeling un easy or anxious they will tend to bounce their legs up and down (this is more common in men). However for women when they are feeling the same they can move their feet in circular motions when their legs are crossed sat down.
I have also found that when in a non interesting conversation the person will not face you square on, they will stand slightly to one side or face the way they were heading. However once they feel more engaged or interested in the conversation the person will naturally turn to face you square on. It is interesting when you notice this in real conversation because you can determine how the conversation is going for the opposite party. This can work both ways. For example, the person may face you square on at the start and once they feel the conversation isn’t going anywhere or they aren’t interested anymore they will then start to turn away from you slowly.
I encourage you to try these out when you are in real conversation as most people will do this wether it be speaking with friends or family or speaking to a complete stranger, most people will do this and it is very interesting to observe
I have found a few simple tips on how to tell if somebody loves of likes you. However you will have to assess the situation and environment before you start to consider these signs as they may be affected.
1) Shinning Eyes: It has been found that when a person likes you, their eyes appear to shine a little more in front of you. This is because when a person likes something or someone, their eyes naturally start to shine. However, keep the environment in consideration as sources of light may make the eyes appear to be shiny.
2) Raised Eyebrows: According to body language a person may naturally raise their eyebrows the moment they see someone they love or like. This is a subconscious body reflex which a person is letting you know that they have acknowledged or seen you.
3) Prolonged Gaze: It has been found that people tend to gaze more at the eyes of people they love of like, while normal people would look in the eye for sometime then shift their gaze away for a few seconds before returning to eye contact.
4) Uneven Eye Contact Distribution: If a person loves or likes somebody they will tend to look at you more often. To explain this, if you were in a group, then the person who likes you will give you more of their eye contact, than they would give eye contact to the others in the group. It has been found that a prolonged gaze can actually lead to attraction. When you look into somebodies eyes for long periods of time, hormones that are responsible for attraction get released automatically into your bodes.
5) looking at you in funny situations: The person who likes you will want to see you laughing, that is why they give you a quick look after something funny has been said. This could be that they are trying to find something in common with you or that they are looking to see if you are laughing too. This may tell them that you have similar interests or into similar humour or jokes etc.
6) Pupil dilation: The pupil of the person who likes you will dilate in your presence. In other words you will notice that the pupil of that person is becoming wider in your presence. People’s Pupils dilate when they look at anything they like. Also keep the surrounding area in consideration as the smallest change in light may make the pupils dilate etc.
7) Looking Away When You Catch Them Looking At You: Just as the person who likes you will want to look at you all the time, they will also want to look away as soon as they acknowledge you looking back. This happens because that person will want to show you that they are not interested in you order to protect their ‘ego’
8) Interested In Your Topics of Conversation: The person who likes you will often ask further details of the conversational topics and go into much more depth than in a normal conversation. This will be with the aim or finding similar interests, and having a longer conversation with you. Keep into consideration that it may be the persons job to go into detail or that the conversation genuinely interested them. Do not assume somebody loves or likes you just from this tip, but use it as a contributing factor with the other tips to strengthen you allegation.
9) Heart Rate: It has been found that when a person likes or loves somebody, their heart rate will increase. This is due to the fact that hormones inside the body are released which make the heart start pumping faster. Also signs of nervousness around the person can be seen, which will also make the heart pump faster. Keep into consideration that the persons previous or current movements may impact on this. Simple movements like walking up a flight of stairs will increase heart rate.
I would suggest trying to observe these tips in your friend groups and try to pin point who likes you if you can. However keep the environment in consideration
Yet another post on lying.
This is quite a harder observational aim to look at, however, when somebody is lying, you may find that they cover ‘vulnerable’ parts of their bodies whilst telling the lie. Vulnerable parts of the body may be arms which aren’t covered by clothing, neck, ears and stomach. It is unclear why people do this, however some people do it subconsciously. Keep an eye out for this and put it in to practice.
Use these posts i do in your everyday life, like at work our out socialising, and see how accurate you can be
Many more posts to come!