Lack of Posts – Apologies

I am extremely sorry for the lack of posts i said i would do last year. I currently and previously had so much work to do for my final year at university i have had no time whatsoever to sit down and carry on this blog. 

I am due to finish in early April when my dissertation is due, therefore i will soon after be doing regular posts for the readers of my blog and hope you carry on reading and sharing my posts. 

however if there is any questions you would like to ask from my previous posts i will still reply, and it will not be too long until i start this blog up and running again as it used to do. 

Thank You.

Observational Techniques

Observation is very important in any bodies life and anybody can be more observant if they wish, with a little practice.

One technique I would recommend is a simple one which would be to write, or take a picture of something they have seen that interests them each day for one year. I would recommend to write a few short paragraphs each day for one year with something of interest you see each day. Within this you can go in to as much details as you wish and go deeper and deeper. With this you will find yourself going into more detail each time you write and soon you will remember almost everything you see about that one thing that you write about. Most people will forget the majority of the things they see and only remember the things that stand out to them straight away. This is what you do not want to do, you want to look deeper in to what you see, and discover things you would not normally find.

Another technique which I would recommend is to observe people in a way you would not normally do. With this you could observe any person you wish that you normally see on a daily basis and look at what they do each day and try to figure out if they have a small system for doing every day things. One example could be to see what type of clothes a person wears to work each day and try to see which particular shirt or tie a person chooses to wear each day. With the observation of this person you will soon be able to predict what they will wear the following day. The options are endless and you can choose something as weird and crazy as possible observe. I like to observe some bodies everyday regime at work, to see what they do first when on arrival at work then what they do next each day. Soon after a slight bit of observation I can predict what they are going to do and most times I get it pretty much spot on.

Another observational technique I would recommend is to look at something from a different point of view each day. with this you can see what the object is facing, what it is next to and what is above and below it. I would also recommend looking at an object much deeper. For a simple example you could be observing a mug or a cup. It isn’t just any ordinary mug or cup although it might just seem it. look at not only the colour or shape of it which most people would do. Try to look at it in much more detail like seeing if it has a small chip, and seeing if it has any significant scratches on it. Try to do this with one object each day and soon you will have a memory full with the details you have gathered, which could end up being useful. Once you get good at this you can observe things in much more detail, remember much more about what you are observing, and recall the information you have gathered much easier.

I would first recommend to a person just starting to choose the first option as you can sit back and take as much time as you wish to write about what you are observing. This will help you learn about observation and how to do it. It will then lead you to do the two other techniques I have recommended, but I would say do one at a time as it may end up getting complicated.


Observational Skills And Techniques (Reminder)

I am just reminding my readers that either tomorrow or later this week when I am available, I will be posting about how to enhance your observational skills, opening your mind, memory techniques and what to observe when looking at things.

The sorts of things I will be posting are very useful in everyday life in particular the workplace. They can help you remember to do things, know more about something, and remember where things are.

I know the memory technique I use is extremely useful in the place I work for finding things. It is easy to do with a bit of practice and I always remember where things are once I place them there.

For observational techniques  will teach you how to observe and how to look at things from a different point of view. This can also be useful in the workplace, on people, and on objects.

Just A Few Tests On Lying

I have been doing a few tests in my everyday life and one person i have been observing is my dad. He tends to lie for a joke quite a lot and i can usually tell when he is lying.

One thing he does, is just not blink at all until i have said something back. He will also not look me directly in my eyes and he usually looks lower at my mouth or chin to avoid this. so with the unbroken eye contact and not looking me dead in the eyes indicates to me that he is lying. However i do look at his body language to back up my answer. He usually freezes completely until i have spoken back, and he has no facial expressions what so ever until i speak back too.

With all these small hints to back up my answer i just say to him that he is lying and then he is start laughing. I usually get this 100% of the time with him as he is so easy to spot when he is lying, but other people may be much harder to read. Look at my post about how to spot people when they are lying.

Finding The Most Dominant Hand

It is obvious to look at somebody when writing to find their most dominant hand, but there are a few ways to find somebodies most dominant hand. One of these ways is that a person will most probably but their mobile phone or wallet on the side of their most dominant hand in their pocket (Mostly Males). I know I always put my phone in my left pocket without even thinking about it however, some people may put phones and wallets in their pocket in which they feel most comfortable. So do not go on this alone, try and find other ways to see which is their more dominant hand by seeing what hand they hold a glass in or what hand they use to answer the phone on to support your answer.

For women, they will usually put their hand bag or carry their bag in their more dominant hand as they will feel more natural, but do not go on this alone. Women will also usually apply make up or other things to their face with their more dominant hand as it is usually the more steady of the two.

Another way to find out is, to look at what foot the person takes their first step on. The balance of probability is that the side of which the foot is first stepped on to is their strongest or most dominant side, therefore it is probably that side of which their strongest hand is on.

In an aggressive or dangerous situation, people with slight knowledge of fighting or self defence will turn so that their strongest side of the body is the furthest away from the person or object in which is dangerous. This is like boxing in which the strongest arm is the furthest away from the opponent, so that the stronger and more critical punches are from their strongest side. This may not be as visible in public but a person will slightly turn their body into this stance unconsciously. It may be just a slight leg movement or just a dropped shoulder which occurs but it is a good way to find a persons strongest side.

Do not take one of these into account, try and find other sources of evidence to back up your answer to try and figure out the most probable of the two arms which is their dominant side. It is good to try this on people you have only just met or people you don’t know very well. I suggest practicing this as often as you can, and you will discover your own ways to identify a persons most dominant hand.

I would like to hear about what you have discovered and other observations you have done to figuring out a persons most dominant side.

Reading People’s Hand Movements (Body Language)

Studies have shown that a lot of the communication we do is through the hands, whether it be explaining in more detail or showing how you are coming across to the person. To read somebody’s hand movements is very important and i recommend to all readers to try this out.

When shaking hands with somebody look at how they hold their hand out to shake your hand. Most people will do it straight onwards so the hands are connecting horizontally. However some people may hold their hand with their palms facing down, this is a sign that they are indicating they want to be the ‘boss’ or in charge so to speak. This goes back years and years and can relate to arm wrestling. Hence the winner or the arm wrestle will have their hand on the top of their opponents with their palm facing down.

Some people may use their hands as barriers. if somebody is getting too close or even to personal the person may lift their hands up sub-consiously  to create a gap from the two people. This is quite a clear and easy sign that the person is feeling un easy or the topic of conversation is getting to personal.

When a person is feeling bored or disinterested, you may find them tapping their hands on a part of their body or an object, however if you speak to them directly or say something that may interest them they will stop and focus on what you are saying. This will be very visible in a work place like an office meeting or in schools.

Another hand movement that may show a sign is when a person is talking about somebody or something. They may be saying they like that person or that they have done well at something and smiling, but if you look at their hands they may be clenching their fist or another aggressive hand gesture. This will may show what the person really thinks of that person in the topic of conversation, like they don’t like them or they are jealous of what they have done.

When speaking to a stranger, a person may form a barrier from them which could be folding the arms or holding an object further out from the body than they usually would. However after sometime of talking the person will lower their hands and arms and open up more once they have familiarised themselves with the person and got to know them better.

Another sign is mostly for women. When a woman is attracted to another person they will start to play with a small object if they have it on their possession. for example a woman could be holding a glass and when she is attracted to another person she will start to play with the glass in slow and caressing movements. like stroking the glass or running her finger around the rim or base of the glass. This may be an indicator showing that she really is attracted to the person she is talking to.

Reading People’s Hand Movements

I will be uploading a new post soon on reading peoples hand movements and how these might explain what they are feeling towards you or in general and also how to look for these signs. Keep an eye out for this post, as i feel that it may be very useful for all people to observe others in relation to hand movements and gestures.